Love lost: advice and strategies

A lost love always brings heartache and also, in many hopelessness with it. Many are unsure: I've just lost the love of my life.

Especially in emotionally difficult time immediately after separation are worth the right tips gold. How to deal with the heartache? How to explain to friends and relatives that you lost your love? Should we try the ex-spouse to recover?
Accept their situation - Love is (initially) lost

The important thing is that you do not indulge in self-pity and give up on themselves. Even if you just collapsed a world where life goes on, though for the time being (or forever) without your / n Ex.

Make sure your heartache is aware of only a temporary condition. It's up to you how long you have (want to). Of course, no one comes within a few hours or days completely on separation and love lost time. But there are people who make it in a few weeks, just as there are people who for months and take years in extreme cases.

How comes this incredible difference about? Was there anyone who comes within a short time on his former partner away, not really in love? Not at all! Someone who forgets his lost love relatively quickly, is someone who hatund his psyche grip on himself and his future believes. We ourselves are the boss of our psyche. We even determine how our life goes on.
To find the right mental attitude - despite lost love!

Unfortunately, it is not possible to simply a lever in the brain of "lovesick" switch to "no heartache." It takes time to get over the heartbreak. Erstrecht if we just lost the love of our lives.

To help you find the right mental attitude as quickly as possible, you should follow some basic rules for behavior from today. It applies primarily to distract yourself and to think as little as possible to the person or explosion. Take time out to visit the free "Ex-Back emergency aid package" to read and follow the outlined here practical tips and strategies. Check out daily thereafter. How many minutes / hours you have thought about your lost love? What have you done? Are you taken a step today, or are you still just as much as before?
Self Control - The key to victory over the lost love

As you have just read, self-control is important. If we do not control us, then we do not notice that we do not come on. A self-control makes us day by day attention to whether our situation improved, deteriorated or have not changed. There are always times a day or two, at which does not change much on your situation. If you are not longer than 3 days may find the least progress or no improvement in your situation, then you should act. Because your goal is about your lost love and your heartache hinwegzukommen.Entweder by winning your / n ex back, or by a defeat your heartache for all.

What do you control this depends entirely on you. We have already been a few examples of possible control issues given, but there are many more. Our Love-Care Forum and in the "Ex-Back emergency aid package" there are a number of examples of how other members behave and what they have controlled.

Self-regulation is one of the main approaches to wave goodbye to the heartache. However, you do not have to take this fight alone. Even if you are in these painful moments may be alone, it is particularly important to ensure social and emotional Unsterstützung by friends and relatives. Psychological studies show that so-called peer support, eg representing the conversation with friends or relatives one of the most successful methods in dealing with crises.

This means that sometimes you have to leave his "snail shell" and tries to alleviate by talking lovesickness active. Especially for men is talking about painful events, such as the lost love is not always easy. You pull out only alszuoft in their own emotions back and reject any form of emotional support thanks. Of course, the openness in talking about the mental anguish always depend on the individual personality. Not infrequently other motives dominate the sealing off from the outside world, such as the need to try not to be a burden.

For friends of the lost love can also quickly become a stress test for lovesickness can not simply be processed in a few days by talking and can last a long time. We can thus overwhelm with our feelings and again and again emerging topic of conversation friends as well. It is particularly important that we maintain an honest and sincere communication with our friends.

Friends are also able to help you at a reflection of your relationship and find out together with you whether you should fight for the love or not. We are happy to idealize events from the past and forget bad experiences. Psychologists call this phenomenon the hindsight bias. Friends who have seen you and your role in the relationship will best help you to indentifizieren problems and reasons for the failure.